The Day I Decided to Stop Shrinking
I can remember the exact day I decided I was done shrinking.
Not physically (though hey, gravity has opinions), but emotionally--the kind of shrinking that happens when you’ve spent years trying to be “easy,” “nice,” and “not too much.”
You know that version of you who smooths her edges so nobody else gets uncomfortable?
Yeah… she’s tired.
I had become a master at making myself small — in rooms, in conversations, in my own dreams. I told myself it was humility. It wasn’t. It was fear dressed up as politeness.
And then one day, I looked in the mirror and thought: What would happen if I stopped apologizing for wanting more?
That question changed everything.
Today, I want to share what happens when you stop shrinking — not just in theory, but in real life. The confidence, the clarity, and the calm that come when you finally stand in your truth.
Because, Sis, there’s nothing louder than a woman who finally decides she’s done playing small.
How Shrinking Shows Up Without You Even Realizing It
Shrinking isn’t always obvious. It’s not just staying quiet in a meeting or holding back an idea. It’s also:
Saying “it’s fine” when it’s not.
Lowering your prices because you’re scared they’ll say no.
Dismissing compliments because you don’t know how to receive them.
Holding back your opinions because you don’t want to “sound bossy.”
It’s the subtle, everyday self-betrayal that chips away at your confidence until one day, you wake up and don’t recognize yourself.
But here’s the truth — you don’t have to earn your space.
You just have to own it.
The Shift From Playing Small to Standing Tall
The day I decided to stop shrinking wasn’t a fireworks moment. It was quiet — a whispered “enough.”
It started with boundaries. Then my voice came back. Then my energy shifted.
Confidence doesn’t crash through the door. It knocks gently, waiting for you to open.
When I started saying no to things that drained me, I finally had space for the things that fueled me. That’s when the Watch Me State™ was born — that moment when you’re not shouting to prove your worth, you’re simply being it.
How to Know It’s Time to Stop Shrinking
Ask yourself:
✨ When was the last time you felt proud instead of just “relieved”?
✨ How often do you silence yourself to keep the peace?
✨ What would change if you believed your dreams weren’t too big, but perfectly sized for you?
The truth?
You don’t need another self-help book. You need to decide.
Decide you’re done shrinking. Decide to step forward. Decide you’re enough — right now.
Becky's final thoughts
The day I stopped shrinking, I didn’t suddenly become fearless.
I just got tired of missing my own potential.
And Sis, if you’re reading this feeling that nudge in your chest — that’s your moment too. You don’t need permission. You need clarity.
Clarity is what quiets the doubt, resets your direction, and reminds you who you were before the world told you to tone it down.
That’s why I created my $1 First Step Clarity Kit — because your comeback doesn’t start with perfection. It starts with perspective.
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